Disclaimer: This is a longer post than normal and there are very few pictures but I think its a pretty good read. I hope you enjoy this Random Act Of Kindness story.
I remember this post where the scared mommy was stuck out of her car. I need to start this one the same way.
I told you all that it was real life kindness. Nothing preplanned.
It was one of those situations that presents itself and you can either
do it or not.
One of those character defining moments.
An act that sends you out of your comfort zone to help another human being.
The kind where you can either act or not.
Last night.. I acted and am so very glad I did.
Just about every weekend I am at Mr. B's house.
Lately we have been doing some work on his beautiful house that used to be his Grandmothers. It has great potential but needs a little T.L.C.
It is no secret that I love coffee so in order to help with the work on the house I needed to get that lovely liquid flowing in my body.
There is a Starbucks right up the street from the house so I drive my half asleep, hot mess of a self the half mile up to get my vanilla soy iced coffee. As of late there has been a very nice girl sitting outside when I get there.
The first time I noticed her she just looked like she was waiting for someone. She looked clean, freshly showered and her hair was combed.
I never would have guessed that she was homeless.
As I walked in she smiled at me and said good morning and told me to have a nice day as I left. Things like that really have an impact on me and it put an extra little pep in my step that day. I went about my business and went back to my day to day not really thinking about her again until a few weeks had passed and I made the same weekend trip and saw her outside again. This time though she looked as if she had maybe had a rough month. She looked tired and as if she hadn't taken a shower since I saw her last. I do not ever carry cash so when she asked me if I had some money to spare it broke my heart to have to tell her I didn't. However, when I ordered my coffee I ordered an extra venti hot chocolate to give to her on my way out. It was a cold morning so I wanted to at least give her something warm to drink. I handed it to her and went back home.
I never would have guessed that she was homeless.
As I walked in she smiled at me and said good morning and told me to have a nice day as I left. Things like that really have an impact on me and it put an extra little pep in my step that day. I went about my business and went back to my day to day not really thinking about her again until a few weeks had passed and I made the same weekend trip and saw her outside again. This time though she looked as if she had maybe had a rough month. She looked tired and as if she hadn't taken a shower since I saw her last. I do not ever carry cash so when she asked me if I had some money to spare it broke my heart to have to tell her I didn't. However, when I ordered my coffee I ordered an extra venti hot chocolate to give to her on my way out. It was a cold morning so I wanted to at least give her something warm to drink. I handed it to her and went back home.
After that encounter I had that girl on my mind every time I went to get coffee.
Awhile ago I saw this on pinterest .

I even made a few of my own. I had every intention of going to downtown phoenix to hand them out to the homeless folks that live there.
i ordered some inexpensive toiletries online and filled baggies with them and some crackers, fruit snacks a granola bar and a water bottle. I really didn't want to go by myself because i am shamefully scared of the homeless. I was going to go this weekend and decided against it so I put the "blessing bags" in a basket in the backseat of my car.
I am now very glad that I did that. I went to Starbucks yesterday morning, the first day of the new year, since Mr. B wanted to work on the front yard and I needed my fuel. I was on the lookout for the girl outside but she was nowhere to be found. I got my coffee and left.
When I got back to his house I went to check and email and my laptop wouldn't turn on. I remembered that it had fallen off the chair it was on the night before. I was all kinds of disappointed.
I went running shortly after that and accidentally ran the wrong day on my 5k app.
I have had bad allergies all day that gave me a headache so after the hustle bustle of what was a seemingly mediocre day at best I decided that i wanted to get some hot tea and lay in bed the rest of the night. I grumbled to my car and drove the same drive to Starbucks that seemed like an eternity. As I was pulling in I saw her.
I went running shortly after that and accidentally ran the wrong day on my 5k app.
I have had bad allergies all day that gave me a headache so after the hustle bustle of what was a seemingly mediocre day at best I decided that i wanted to get some hot tea and lay in bed the rest of the night. I grumbled to my car and drove the same drive to Starbucks that seemed like an eternity. As I was pulling in I saw her.
She was sitting on the ground. Staring into space. shivering.
As I got out of my car I grabbed one of the blessing bags in the backseat.
My mind turned off from the negative things that had happened to me that day and turned to her.
My heart broke as I looked in my wallet to see I had no cash again.
As I walked closer I gathered up all the courage I could muster and knelt down to her.
With the kindest voice I could use at the time I asked if I could get her something warm to drink.
I went inside and ordered my hot tea and her drink and came back outside to give it to her. I knelt down to this PERSON with a very heavy heart in my chest. I told her to have a safe evening and placed the blessing bag next to her and handed her the coffee. She looked at me with such appreciation in her eyes as she accepted the drink and said thank you to the stranger that stopped to talk to her.
I was humbled as I got into my car to head back to the warm house and lay in bed with a loving boyfriend there to take care of me.
I am glad I was able to step out of my comfort zone to help her in the smallest of ways. In her story I am hopefully a sign of positivity and for that I am grateful.
I will close this by saying I had a number on my 50 in 555 list that was to
8. Preform a homeless RAOK
and I think I can cross it off but, I will continue to try and bring some light to an otherwise dim situation for the many folks that are living without a home.
In the post I referenced above, I encouraged you all to just be nice to people.
People are people and they all deserve a smile at some point.
XOXO,
-C







Your package is THE PERFECT thing to give to a homeless person. I am aware all homeless people do not have addictions, but my siblings have been homeless before.
ReplyDeleteAs a family, we were unable to give them money or anything valuable because they would be used to buy drugs, alcohol, or other things just as harmful when their vital necessities were not being taken care of. When other people gave them money it often made it harder for them to become sober.
Thanks for bringing this lady some good cheer. It breaks my heart that not everyone has a warm place to go.
Autumn thank you so much for sharing your personal story with me. I appreciate the real comment more than you know. Its nice to have my ideas solidified when im not sure of them.
DeleteThis is beautiful, I'm glad you exist in the world and are so giving and full of love. Are there any local shelters in your area? If you're able to compile a list, it might help her. She might not know where to go and probably doesn't have access to internet to find a place. Just a thought :) Living in NYC, it's like a constant stream of homeless people, you know? And it is so easy to go numb to it or to choose to be selfish and keep eyes forward, no reaction. Plus, honestly, sometimes it's scary when I'm alone at night or in the subway stations. But this reminds me that everyone is a human and the line between financially stable and not, sheltered and not, balanced and not is a very fine one. Thanks for that reminder :)
ReplyDeleteKerry! Give me your flippin email address. Your comments seriously make me so happy. When I read them I am left smiling for minutes at a time and there is nothing better than smiling and having someone appreciate what you do. Your idea is GENIUS! I had been thinking of different ways to help if I saw her again and that is perfect. Thank you for your continued support in my blog. You rock!
DeleteYou always make me cry. I used to do this -- make bags of food and stuff to keep in my car. It always made me so happy to have something legitimate to hand someone. Thanks for inspiring me to start doing it again!
ReplyDeleteI make you cry?! You're kidding. Oh my heck, you are just to wonderful. I know exactly what you mean about being able to hand someone something. I just feel like it cheapens what your doing if you just give people money. Even for gifts. Thats so boring! I <3 you!
DeleteI've recently started following your blog- which I LOVE by the way. But this reminded me, for awhile I kept a small bag of dog food in my car for trips with my dog. One night on my way home from work I came across a german shepherd who was clearly homeless and hungry, not to mention it was 6 inches of snow and so cold out. I dropped all the food out of the bag on the ground and he came running. I luckily had a few bones in my car too (my dog is over the top spoiled). He ended up jumping right in my car. Our local shelter is no kill so I took him there and he was fantastic. There are so many homeless animals around, I need to remember to fill ziplocks full of dog food again for my car. I know its not really a RAOK, but I know that puppy sure did appreciate that food that night.
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